你有过这种心理活动吗?
在餐馆看到认识的人,为了避免正面接触扭头就跑。餐馆好不好吃都不重要了,光想到可能会发生的寒暄场面就已经尴尬到脚趾扣地了。
漫威演员奥妹(Elizabeth Chase Olsen)在吉米秀(Jimmy Kimmel Live)讲述了类似的经历。
奥妹因在漫威电影《复仇者联盟系列》中扮演绯红女巫角色深入人心。后来主演的《旺达与幻视》(Wanda Vision)剧集也收获一致好评。

《旺达与幻视》剧照
然而见惯了大场面的演员也逃不过“社恐”。节目中,她提起有一次在外吃饭时遇到主持人吉米·坎摩尔(Jimmy Kimmel)后,仓皇逃跑的经历:
And you know you don’t get a lot of face time. And I feel like we don’t know each other that well. ... And I felt really weird sitting through a meal. Not knowing if I should say Hi to you or not. And so I just went to a different restaurant.
你知道我们没见过几次面,所以我觉得咱们不算很熟的那种。……不知道该不该打招呼,所以我就去了另一家餐馆。
And I have really bad social anxiety. Like here, and outside of work. Seeing work people in their private life. And I felt really weird sitting through a meal.
其实我有很严重的社交恐惧。比如现在,或者在非工作时间。如果在私人生活中遇到在工作中认识的人,我觉得坐在一起吃饭很奇怪。

我们平时所说的“社恐”用英语可以说“social anxiety disorder”、“social phobia”,也就是对社交互动表现出忧虑和紧张。这与病理上的社交恐惧症(anthropophobia)是大相径庭的。
社交网站Reddit上,众网友分享了日常生活中遇到的“令人窒息”的社交场面:
"Driving to a party, sat outside of it in my car the entire time, left. Next day, said I was there." —rakhira
开车去一个派对,结果全程坐在外面的车里。第二天,我跟别人说我在派对上。
"Oh boy, my stomach is sinking as I recall this. I did this twice in one week, by the way. I went over to my friend's house and when his dad opened the door and said, 'Welcome!' I replied with 'yes, welcome.'" —deegates
哦,天哪,现在回想起来还觉得尴尬。
我去朋友家,他爸爸打开门说:“欢迎!”
我:“是的,欢迎。”
顺便说一下,这种事一周发生了两次。
"Bartender asked me what my name was... I forgot and had to think about it." —StreetwearMarkie
酒保问我叫什么名字……
我:我忘了,还得再想想。

这种“社交焦虑”是普遍存在的,喜欢独处,或是在面对特定场合紧张害羞都无需矫枉过正。
悦纳自己,就是最好的状态。
留言跟双语君分享你的“社恐”经历吧~
编辑:陈月华
实习生:刘小榕
来源:维基百科 Reddit
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