如果你看着镜子，总觉得自己这里也不好，那里也不好，那么就听一听美国演员亚当·罗亚（Adam Roa）的这篇演讲，也许会得到启发。
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视频中，亚当·罗亚倾吐了自己的外貌焦虑，他的朋友是这样开导他的：“对待自己要像对待你爱的人一样”。
When I looked in the mirror, my voice was quite clear: you're ugly; you're too thin; your hairlines recede and you got a pit bull on your chin, and that was when she gave me a piece of advice that changed my life. She gave me a hug and said treat yourself like someone you loved.
当我照镜子的时候，我的声音很清楚地说：你太丑，你太瘦，你的发际线已经后移了，你有双下巴。这时她给了我一个建议，改变了我的生活。她给了我一个拥抱，然后说，对待自己要像对待你爱的人一样。
我们都会看到自己爱的人身上的优点，却容易放大自己的缺点。因为这个世界上总有声音在告诉你，“你还不够优秀，你还不够漂亮，这样的你不行”，亚当·罗亚找到了症结所在，因为我们生活在一个“消费主义”社会。
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We live in a consumerist society, which means they need you to buy stuff, and the easiest way to sell it is to tell you you're not enough. And we're seeing it so much that we start believing in these lies.
我们生活在一个消费主义社会，这意味着他们需要你买东西。而最简单的推销方法就是告诉你，你还不够好。而我们听得太多了，就开始相信这些谎话。
But the truth is the makeup they're selling and make you feel prettier is the same makeup you buy to stop feeling shittier about this lie. They keep telling you that you are not enough.
但事实是，他们卖的那些所谓让你变美的化妆品，只是让你不再为他们的谎言焦虑的安慰剂。他们一直跟你说你还不够好。
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近几年“XX焦虑”是个很火的话题，“外貌焦虑”、“身材焦虑”、“工作焦虑”，还有“贩卖焦虑”，似乎总在提醒你，自己永远都不够好（“keep telling you you are not enough”）。所以面对这样的环境，亚当·罗亚说“要爱你自己”。
Love is the answer, love is the key.
爱就是答案，爱是关键。
But if you can't love yourself how could you ever love me?
但如果你连自己都不爱又怎么能爱别人呢？
如果你的朋友、亲人也有这样的“焦虑”，我们也要同样用爱告诉他们，你已经足够好了，现在的你就是你一直期待的样子。
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So stop looking for more unless you're looking in a mirror. Because it's about time for you to see clearly that you are who you've been looking for.
所以不要再寻找更多了，除非你正在照镜子。因为你现在应该清楚看到，现在的你就是你一直期待的样子。
图源：视觉中国
是时候停止无端的自我否定了，是时候对虚假的“消费主义”说不了，你值得成为一个让自己满意和快乐的人。
And deep in my core I knew it was time to stop looking for more until I could look through all my fear and look into a mirror and see clearly that the man looking back at me was the only one who can make me happy.
在我内心深处，我知道是时候停止寻找更多了，直到我能看穿所有的恐惧，看着镜子，清楚地看到镜子里的那个人是唯一能让我幸福的人。
有自信的人，可以化渺小为伟大，化平庸为神奇。
编辑：左卓
实习生：王丽冬
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