We get it, being single in the city is tough. But whatever your dating conundrum might be – from finding the best hook-up bars to trying out the best new dating sites and apps – our sex columnist is here to help.
‘When I use dating apps, I want more than just a hook up, but it seems like most people I speak to just want sex. How do I make it clear to guys that that's not what I want?'
Believe it or not, there are plenty of stand-up guys out there who are looking for far more than a smash-and-dash kind of arrangement (sometimes boys have feelings too, you know). Keep your online profile clear, upfront and LTR forward – that’s key to getting a meet-the-parents kind of boy on lock – and don’t be afraid to bin off a time-waster as soon as his dick pic pops up on your lock screen. You’ve got to be cut throat in the pursuit of lifelong happiness in 2017. And if all else fails? Follow my lead and embrace the D until Mr. Right comes along. That’s better than nothing, right?
'I'm really into my fuck buddy, but she only sees it as friends with benefits. What should I do?'
Well, well, well. Let me tell you that you’re not the first to be burnt by the idea of having vagina on speed dial, nor will you be the last. Feelings and emotions that get thrown into the mix are precisely the reason why the fuck buddy thing just doesn’t work in the long run. You need to be honest with your feelings because they are completely natural and valid. And if you’ve turned her off from staring at her as she sleeps or sending cutesy goodnight kisses or shit like that then babe, you need to put an end to this situation before she smashes your heart to pieces – because all she wants is no-strings-attached fun (and rightly so).
'My boyfriend and his best friend used to sleep together. They still hang out all the time just as friends, but I hate it. What can I do?'
This one is tough. Although my natural reaction would be to shut that shit down stat, I’ll try to take a more objective stance before recommending you scratch his eyes out. Let’s get one thing straight: if you got involved with your boyfriend knowing his sexual history with his best friend then, sorry honey, you’re going to have to learn to deal. If, on the otherhand, you’ve been blindsided by this nugget of oh-so-important information you absolutely have to tell him exactly how you feel and try to come to some kind of resolution. Remember, his relationship with his bestie may be purely platonic – but if it isn’t, get the hell out of there before you become the side bitch.
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