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1. Definitely stare deep in their eyes
Staring into each others eyes really does increase attraction:
In two studies, subjects induced to exchange mutual unbroken gaze for 2 min with a stranger of the opposite sex reported increased feelings of passionate love for each other.
2. Still early in the relationship? Talk about travel, not movies.
When talking about movies, less than 9 percent of the pairs wanted to meet up again, compared to 18 percent when participants spoke about the top topic—travel.
3. Want to look more attractive?
How long does it take to determine if someone is hot? Thirteen milliseconds. Really: thirteen milliseconds.
So you don’t have a lot of time but there are some things you can do:
Beauty sleep? Yeah, it’s real. Get some.
Red clothes. Men, women, whatever. Wear red.
Guys: chin up. Ladies: chin down.
4. Forget a boring dinner. Go somewhere exciting for Valentine’s Day.
The research points again and again to how important thrills are:
What reignited passion in long term marriages? Doing exciting things together.
Think a pleasant evening is all it takes? Researchers did a 10 week study comparing couples that engaged in “pleasant” activities vs “exciting” activities. Pleasant lost.
Why would doing anything exciting have such a big effect on a relationship? Because we’re lousy about realizing where our feelings are coming from. Excitement from any source will be associated with the person you’re with, even if they’re not the cause of it.
5. Go ahead and babytalk
It’s a good thing:
Individuals who had babytalked to friends or romantic partners tended to be more secure and less avoidant with regard to attachments in general. Within a particular romantic relationship, indicators of intimacy and attachment accounted for about 22% of the variance in babytalk frequency. Partner’s babytalking was the strongest predictor, accounting for about 42% of the variance. Communication intentions accompanying babytalk paralleled the hallmarks of attachment, especially affection and play. These and other results suggest that babytalk functions in the process of intimate personal connection.
6. Best Valentine’s Day gift?
Studies show people like your gifts more when you stop being so creative and just get them what they want.
Wanna go even further and be doubly sure they’ll like that present? Wrap it. And guys? Flowers work.
7. Ask the right questions
Arthur Aron, a psychologist at the State University of New York at Stony Brook, is interested in how people form romantic relationships, and he’s come up with an ingenious way of taking men and women who have never met before and making them feel close to one another. Given that he has just an hour or so to create the intimacy levels that typically take weeks, months, or years to form, he accelerated the getting-to-know-you process through a set of thirty-six questions crafted to take the participants rapidly from level one in McAdams’s system to level two.
But how effective can this be really? In under an hour it can create a connection stronger than a lifelong relationship.
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