Let's Eat Together

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18岁的芝加哥女孩Sara Sadok是TikTok的忠实用户，她非常清楚Tik Tok上有多少围绕节食话题、甚至是支持饮食紊乱的内容，在这个平台上，“what I eat in a day”系列视频屡见不鲜（在这一主题视频中，人们会以自己吃的少为傲）；网红公开宣传减肥“神药”，甚至带头支持以闪电瘦身为名的节食风潮。

Sara Sadok, an 18-year-old from the Chicago area, is an avid TikTok user. She’s very aware of how much diet-centric content ― and even pro-eating disorder content ― there is on the app, from “what I eat in a day” videos to celebrity posts promoting magic-bullet diet pills or lose-weight-fast diet fads.

Sadok告诉《赫芬顿邮报》：“Tik Tok上的许多视频正在向人们展示如何在短时间内减掉数额夸张的重量，这类内容极具诱导性，当看到孩子们为了更贴合视频中的男女形象而产生减肥的想法时，我真的无比痛心。”

“There are so many videos showing people how to lose an absurd amount of weight in a small amount of time,” Sadok told HuffPost. “It’s potentially triggering content. It’s especially heartbreaking to see young kids thinking that they need to lose weight in order to look like the man or woman in the video.”

尽管Sadok自己从来没经历过饮食失调，但她的一个好朋友却不幸受此折磨，这也让Sadok对该疾病感触颇深。因此，上月末，这位少女决定采取措施来对抗Tik Tok上所有有害的减肥内容，并鼓励人们养成健康的饮食习惯。在她的“一起吃吧”系列视频中，Sadok邀请那些可能正囿于饮食失调的人和她一起吃饭。

Though Sadok has never struggled with an eating disorder herself, the subject hits home because she has a close friend who lives with one. So late last month, the teen decided to do something to counter all the toxic weight loss content on the app and encourage healthy eating habits instead. In her “Let’s Eat Together” video series, Sadok invites those who may be struggling with an eating disorder to have a meal with her virtually.

“如果你难以坐下好好吃点东西，那就让我们一起吃顿饭吧，我先吃一口，让你感觉不那么可怕，然后你再吃第一口，好吗?”

“If you ever have a hard time sitting down for a meal, let’s have a meal together, I’ll take the first bite to make it a little less intimidating for you, and you can have your first bite after, OK?” 

Sadok带着安抚人心的微笑鼓励人们一步一步往下走，“我知道这对你很难，但我真的为你的进步感到骄傲，我们一起再吃第二口吧，”她说。

With a reassuring smile, Sadok cheers viewers on through more bites. “I know that was hard, and I’m really proud of you. Let’s have our second bite together,” she says.

现在，其他用户正在使用Tik Tok的合拍（duet）功能，它可以创建一个分屏，并允许两个视频同步进行匹配(类似抖音的合拍视频)，用户可以录制自己吃饭的视频与Sadok的视频同框播放，并通过这种方式来达到和Sadok“一起吃饭”的效果。

Now, other users are using the “duet” feature on TikTok — which creates a split screen and allows two videos to be timed to match — so they can eat with Sadok.

在一段合拍视频中，一位青少年与Sadok一同吃饭时强忍泪水。在另一则视频中，一名年轻女子讲述了她最近因抑郁而吃不下饭的经历，看了Sadok的走红视频后，她也想制作自己的“一起吃饭”视频，把这种应对饮食失调的温暖之举传递给更多的人。

In one video, a teen fights back tears while eating a meal alongside Sadok. In another video, a young woman talks about how she’s struggled to eat lately because of her depression. After seeing Sadok’s viral videos, she wanted to pay it forward with a “Let’s Eat Together” video of her own.

Sadok说，收到回复视频以及合拍视频的反馈让她非常吃惊。

Sadok said she’s taken aback by the feedback she’s received on the reply videos and duet clips.

她在接受《赫芬顿邮报》的采访时表示:“看完所有的合拍视频后我深受感动，它们让我产生了共鸣，我从来没有真正意识到自己的小举动帮了大家这么大的忙。而最让我振奋的事莫过于看到最初那些剪辑合拍视频来帮助自己吃饭的人，现在也在制作自己的视频来帮助其他人克服进食障碍。”

“Watching all the ‘duets’ is so heartwarming and really resonates with me because I never truly realized how much help I was,” she told HuffPost. “The most inspiring thing for me is to see the people who initially duetted my video to help them eat now creating videos of their own to help others do the same thing.”

旁人可能会觉得这些视频的想法很简单，但洛杉矶饮食失调治疗中心的治疗师Carolyn Comas表示，对于那些患有饮食失调症的人来说，在消极想法的影响下他们每吃一口都像在经历一场艰苦的战斗。

The premise of these videos may seem simple to an outsider. But for those dealing with eating disorders, every bite can be an uphill battle due to the negative thoughts that often precede it, said Carolyn Comas, a therapist at Eating Disorder Therapy LA. 

她告诉《赫芬顿邮报》:“在吃东西的那一瞬间，你脑中抵制的想法越来越明晰，无数种不要吃的理由充斥着你的大脑。而一些饮食失调的产生是因为食物对个人造成了心理创伤，比如若有食物引起窒息的经历，人们可能就会担心‘如果我吃东西噎住或呕吐怎么办’，从而拒绝进食。”

“In that moment, your thoughts can be very loud and filled with reasons to not eat,” she told HuffPost. “Some eating disorders are due to a trauma with food such as choking, and there can be a fear of ‘What if I choke or throw up from eating?’” 

有人陪你一起吃东西，帮助你克服那些恐惧，真的能迸发出巨大的力量。“这么做可以让那些正苦苦挣扎的人知道，就算吃了那顿饭或点心，他们最害怕的后果也不会发生，”Comas说。

Having someone take a bite with you and help you challenge those fears can be incredibly helpful. “It shows the person struggling that their biggest fear is most likely not going to happen by eating that meal or snack,” Comas said.

虽然线上的饮食支持（饮食支持：指在吃饭时为饮食障碍患者提供心理疏导与情感支持）不能替代专业治疗手段，但Sadok拍的视频在新冠疫情时期却显得尤为及时，在这期间，许多人被迫中断以往的治疗体系，成日呆在家里也让人开始紧张体重的增加从而影响进食。

Though online meal support is not a substitute for professional help, Sadok’s videos are well-timed to the pandemic, since many people may be cut off from their usual support systems and feel stressed about weight gain. 

心理学家Lauren Muhlheim说:“在疫情期间，人们比以往更加孤立隔绝，很明显，即便是一条为你加油鼓劲的录音也可以让你感到不小的慰藉。”

“Now, in the time of COVID, people are more isolated than ever,” psychologist Lauren Muhlheim said. “It’s easy to see how having even a recording cheering you on could be reassuring.” 

对于那些正走出饮食紊乱的人来说，通过FaceTime或Zoom与朋友进行虚拟聚餐同样可以产生积极的效果。如今一些专门研究身体形象问题的营养师和治疗师也已经开始在INS上免费进行视频直播来帮助这些患者。（身体形象问题：人们难以避免和一些不切实际的身材标准进行比较，这有时会导致抑郁、焦虑、愤怒、自我厌恶的情绪产生甚至会危害社交关系。）

For those in eating disorder recovery, making a virtual lunch or having a dinner date with friends over FaceTime or Zoom may be helpful, too. Some dietitians and therapists who specialize in body image issues have also begun to host free Instagram Live sessions to support these patients.

如果你正与饮食失调和身体形象问题作斗争，那么不妨优先考虑这种社交联结，或许这可以帮助你摆脱困境。

So if you’re struggling with eating disorders and body image issues, prioritize that social connection and sometimes it can be incredibly helpful.