春天就快到了，别放弃自己！

In Stephen Boss’s final Instagram video, a Christmas tree twinkles with white lights as the famous dancer and “Ellen” DJ fluidly bounces to an upbeat song. As he and his wife bop to the rhythm, he smiles. He looks happy.A few days later in a motel room, the 40-year-old father of three died by suicide.

You can imagine how jarring it can be when someone who seems happy ends their life. It can make you worry a loved one’s smile is a deceptive mask.

they did it because they were trying to escape from a situation that seemed impossible to dealwith or to get relief from really bad thoughts or feelings. 

Sometimes a depressed person plans a suicide in advance. Many times, though, suicide attempts happen impulsively, in a moment of feeling desperately upset. A situation like a breakup, a big fight with a parent,being outed by someone else, or being victimized in any way can cause someone to feel desperately upset. Often, a situation like this, on top of an existing depression, acts like the final straw.

Being a teen is not easy. There are many new social, academic, and personal pressures. And for people who have other problems to deal with, such as living in violent or abusive environments, life can feel even harder.Some teens have learning problems or attention problems that make it hard for them to succeed in school. They may feel disappointed in themselves or feel they are a disappointment to others.

Some people who attempt suicide mean to die and some aren't completely sure they want to die. For some, a suicide attempt is a way to express deep emotional pain. They can't say how they feel, so, for them, attempting suicide feels like the only way to get their message across, and dying seemed like the only way out. Sadly, many people who really didn't mean to kill themselves end up dead or critically ill.

We all feel overwhelmed by difficult emotions or situations sometimes. But most people get through it or can put their problems in perspective and find a way to carry on with determination and hope. So why does one person try suicide when another person in the same tough situation does not?

The answer to those questions lies in the fact that most people who die by suicide have depression.

Sometimes people who feel suicidal may not even realize they are depressed. They're unaware that it is the depression — not the situation — that's influencing them to see things in a "there's no way out," "it will never get better," "there's nothing I can do" kind of way.

People with a condition called bipolar disorder are also more at risk for suicide because their condition can cause them to go through times when they are extremely depressed as well as times when they have abnormally high or frantic energy (called mania or manic). Both of these extreme phases of bipolar disorder affect and distort a person's mood, outlook, and judgment. For people with this condition, it can be a challenge to keep problems in perspective and act with good judgment.

It is always a good thing to start a conversation with someone you think may be considering suicide. It allows you to get help for the person, and just talking about it may help the person feel less alone and more cared about and understood.

Talking things through also may give the person a chance to consider other solutions to problems. Most of the time, people who are considering suicide are willing to talk if someone asks them out of concern and care. Because people who are depressed are not as able to see answers as well as others, it can help to have someone work with them in coming up with at least one other way out of a bad situation.

Don’t guilt the person. “People who care about you will be haunted by your death for the rest of their lives. You must stay alive to save them.” It’s true, concern for others deters some people from acting on their suicidal thoughts. Statements like that, however, can convey that the person’s current suffering isn’t as important as others’ future pain. Such statements also can exacerbate guilt in people who already fault themselves for their suicidal urges.

Don’t judge, rebut, persuade or otherwise try to talk the person out of suicide. At least, not yet. There may be a time later to try to discuss the person’s thinking. For now, such an approach will probably shut down the conversation, not open it up.

There are many adventures that we may never go on…so many fancy hotels we’ll never sleep in, mountains that won’t get climbed, or oceans we’ll never see. So if you feel there’s something missing to complete your life, before you die, you should probably do it…

The more we recognize and honor the small gifts in front of us and take the chances we believe we should take: the better off we will be, no regrets. If we always aim to be appreciative and grateful in all that we do—it’s impossible not to see the value in all life—and when our hearts and minds are open to nature, it doesn’t get any better!

Sunrises make life worth living. A good fire makes life worth living. Clean air and water makes life worth living. Laughter (and sometimes heartache) makes life worth living. Coffee definitely makes life worth living.worth of living is manifest. The vast wisdom and compassion of universe playing out is life itself.