我曾是一个不折不扣的工作狂。
我的世界只有工作，
对它产生了依赖，犹如“上瘾”。
我曾是一个不折不扣的购物狂。
我曾沉迷于非理性的购物 ，
用它来刺激我的神经，犹如“上瘾”。
在人生旅途中，还有一个“瘾”。
我坚守在自己的“安全区”。
因为缺乏自信。
我逐渐意识到这些所谓的“瘾”
是因为我在寻找一种联结。
我开始相信，
人是可以改变的，
人生充满不同的选择和机遇。
我开始寻找遗失的联结。
但旅程中，我越来越迷失方向。
为了保护自己，我把自己包裹起来，
开始认识自己的问题。
🍃🍃🍃🍃🍃
只有隐藏自己，我才感受到安全。
每天带着厚重的盔甲，
把内心的脆弱谨慎的打包，
没有人可以看到我的“缺失”。
随着时间的迁移，
盔甲已经无法隐藏我内心的情绪。
我泪盈满眶，
我选择了臣服于真实的感受。
当选择开始接受自己，
我逐渐地把开始卸下了厚重的盔甲，
这时，我发现那个遗失的联结。
原来
你所寻找的，一直都在你灵魂中。
或许因为太忙，外面的声音太嘈杂，
你并没有听见。
或许，你听见了，但你选择了忽略。
因为在你看来保持现状比较安全。
🌿🌿 🌿🌿🌿
如果你选择与自己内在联结，请放下你的“瘾”。
慢下来。停顿。
给自己一点空间。
聆听一下你的身体、思绪和感受，
并把他们都记录下来。
你的内心在告诉你什么？
享受一下独处的时间，
同时也把你的心打开与志同道合的人相处。
当你愿意做出这样的改变时，你会发现在面对挑战时，你并不孤独。
结语：
按哈佛80年的研究显示最快乐和健康的人，是那些处于关系中的人。和谐的关系不但滋养我们，也让我们能更坦然的面对人生中的挑战。这里我指的是各种关系，包括夫妻、家庭、友谊、同事等。但，同样的，如果你没有找到与自己内心的联结，这些关系也会给你带来更多的挑战。
你也有“瘾”吗？
你的“瘾”是什么？它（们）
在告诉你什么？
英文版：
For a long time, I was ADDICTED to my job.
I was a workaholic.
There was also a period of time when I was addicted to shopping.
I was a shopaholic.
Throughout my life, I was addicted to playing safe.
Low self-esteem and confidence have always been the issue.
As I become aware of these addictions,
I come to understand that I am looking for a deeper CONNECTION.
I start to believe that LIFE CAN ALWAYS BE BETTER.
THERE IS ALWAYS A CHOICE and NEW OPPORTUNITIES WILL APPEAR.
I am looking for that missing link with those around me,
and most importantly my SOUL.
The search starts from every corner of the world, outside of me.
The more I can’t find it, the more I bundle myself up,
believing there is something wrong with me.
I put on an amour everyday to protect myself so no one could see that
I was actually “not enough”.
Over time, my amour can no longer contain my deeply buried emotions.
I break down into tears in my office 30 minutes before holding a meeting.
With my swollen eyes,
I detach myself, act as if nothing has happened and finished the meeting as usual.
This may seemed to be unprofessional in a corporate setting.
On contrary, is this not something that many are unwilling to face?
I have simply chosen to allow, surrender and honor my truth.
When I choose to unbundle and OPEN myself up, I find that missing link.
Whatever that you are searching, is within you.
You miss the message because you are busy and not hearing it.
Perhaps you hear it but choose to ignore it.
If you choose to deepen your connection with yourself,
start by dropping those addictions:
· Pause and check-in to your body, thoughts and feelings throughout the day.
Track what information are they offering you.
What is your soul trying to tell you?
· Enjoy solitude but also choose to open up and spend time with people.
We are not meant to be alone.
When you do, you may realize you are not alone in the challenges you face.
END
According to an 80-year Harvard study, the ONE thing that makes us happier and healthier is our relationships. Fulfilling and harmonious relationships not only nurtures us, but also supports us during times of challenge. Relationships are not limited to couples, but also family members, friends, colleagues etc. However, there is one crucial point --- if you have not found that connection with your inner being, all these relationships will bring you more challenges.
How about you?
Do you have any addictions?
What are they telling you?
Karin Tan
Inner Mindfulness Center 意臻心力正念中心联合创始人
The Luminous Living创始人
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